Four years. How is that even possible? I will not even estimate how many days. That could crush me right about now.
I have no wisdom about grief to share this year. Except, it still really really hurts.
For the last 364 days, I have tried to shut it down. I have even tried to start to change his room. Baby steps.
I run into his friends, who graduated two years ago. They are all 19 now and can drink—legally. I even run into them in the liquor store. Awkward!
We talk about what they’re doing. I desperately want to ask them about what they remember about Callum. But that’s not fair.
I will, for the first time, watch Tristan graduate from Grade 12. Something my family and I didn’t get to experience with Callum. He didn’t get to go to semi-formal in Grade 9. And he didn’t get to prom.
I try not to be angry. Or sad. But it’s a challenge. Every day. I just hide it really well.
Callum’s nickname growing up was “Bunny”. That’s what I called him. I realize now that he had a gentle part of him, a kindness, even from the time he was little. I think that is what people saw in him. It sometimes made him vulnerable to bullies. But it also made him an amazing friend.
I will try to honour him in this, the fourth year since he left us.
I went to the cemetery today, just to make sure everything looked okay, just in case anyone went there tomorrow. Still his mom.
I know Callum would be so proud of the man that Tristan has become, and everything he has accomplished. He will always be a better person because he had Callum as a role model.
Callum – you made us all better. I just wish we had more time with you.
I will always love you and miss you.
Love you Call-Call.
Mom
To see the slide show about Callum: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Afz8ZeiIjqA